Dominique's Feminine Mystique

ARCANE WOMAN

there lies within her a secret so quiet

no one will ever know just what - it's private

if you approach her with inquisitive eyes

she'll avoid you gracefully - just that, no lies

she'll reveal unashamedly past mistakes corrected

her secret remains a mystery -

future stakes protected...

arcane woman you can see

i wanna know your secrecy

arcane woman i need to know

the secret you hold - it's killing me so.

                                                           -demetrice (1982)

21st Century Woman Spotlight

Dominique wears her feminine mystique like a lady.

"Powerful. It's something that's inside that I think a mysterious woman can possess where people just think, 'I don't know what it is, but that is a powerful woman.'  She has that kind of energy that you can just feel.  Whether you see it or not when you're around her, you feel that power - that energy coming from her. She is filled with a lot of things that are good. Yeah, powerful!"
      -Dominique O'Connor describes a mysterious woman in one word 

She kept her deep-dark secret silent for years until that one fateful day she shared her harrowing ordeal with other women who were also victims of domestic violence.

She carefully shares some of her 'don't-you-say-anything' secrets with only those she trusts -  women of character.

She methodically cultivates the rich soil in her secret garden from whence inner secrets bloom a beautiful and colorful flower with petals layered in over-the-top confidence that attracts people's curiosity and keeps them coming back for more and more and more and more.

She emphatically declares that a mysterious woman has a strong attitude and a strong sense of confidence that other women want to emulate but not duplicate.  


Dominique O'Connor honors her feminine mystery and wears it 'like a lady' even "when I'm in the dirt.  How I carry myself and what people expect are not quite exact, still they like who they see," says the professional registered nurse and amateur vegetable and fruit gardener who lives in Orlando with her husband, Jerry, and their sons, seven-year-old Shawn and five-year-old Andrew.

What's not to admire, like, or even love about a compassionate charge nurse who sings and dances for military veterans in the hospice unit at the Orlando VA Medical Center? Her familiar laughter brings them happiness.  Her warm-hearted hands gently massage tense back muscles of one grateful veteran who misses her dearly when she breaks for  family vacations.  Her patriotic ears stand at attention and salute the centenarian as he recalls storming the beaches of Normandy during World War II and the paralyzed Vietnam veteran who explains why he risked his life to save a group of orphans and nuns from murderous attacks by the enemy.   Tears flow freely from her big round brown eyes when real-life wounded American soldiers share fascinating and powerful stories that touch her emotions in ways movies like 'Saving Private Ryan' never could.

The attractive and happy-go-lucky 38-year-old has 18 years in the field of nursing and practices good bedside manner on a regular basis.  "I'm here to help and heal. I make it a point to go into each room with a smile and be the best that I can be.  And I do my best to make them feel good. I may not be able to cure their illnesses, but I can at least guarantee them that I'm here to make their day better."  Beginning in October, Dominique will teach certified nursing assistants how to provide care to terminally ill residents and their families, avoid burnout and learn coping mechanisms as a caregiver.

Dominique hangs out at Lukas Nursery in Oviedo, Florida.

Family, friends, co-workers and neighbors know all too well of Dominique's natural passion for helping others.  They seek her advice on how to rear children with autism (her older son is autistic) and personal finances. Mentoring women with self-esteem issues magnifies her purpose in life because she briefly lost that attribute after a traumatic domestic abuse incident in 1992.  After enduring a tiresome day of college classes and working the night shift as a CNA, she was roughly awakened from her sleep, knocked unconscious and raped in her off-campus apartment. Dominique hid her secret for three years, became anti-social and struggled with her self-worth. 


"He [the rapist] may have taken something from me, but it was only temporary because everything he took from me then, I now have back," says the mysterious woman who credits her late father for helping her develop a strong personality and build a strong sense of self-confidence during her teen years.  

Colorful fabrics of self-confidence, self-esteem, honor, dignity and self-respect drape her provocative mystique, and she wears all the colors well.  Even during low key moments, arcane qualities take control, and her powerful personality bursts on the scene for all to witness in undeniable amazement.  The self-described born leader revels in knowing that she can wield her mysterious personality for the good of others and cast a positive effect on them.  "People don't know how I do it, but it's on purpose. Everything I do is on purpose."

It's no secret that Dominique's predetermined life's purpose centers around helping others. The future grass roots politician calls it 'providing community service.'  You can place a safe bet that whenever she decides to hit the campaign trail, people will be drawn by her absolute self-confidence and super ultra, high-energy level leadership style.  Opposing candidates and local residents will think to themselves, "I don't know what it is, but that's a powerful woman!"

Dominique's feminine mystique is a beautiful flower to behold.  You truly have to see it to believe it.

"When you exude confidence in a good way, I think that's a mystery because most people don't have that.  So they gravitate towards that and it makes them curious."

- Dominique O'Connor

                                                                                          -demetrice

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